SO I SPEAK

Oh my cheezels its been a month since I updated my blog. WAS time really that fast on me?! The last time I updated was when I blogged about JEANS!
I love fashion. I love, Jeans. I hope you readers love that blog post.
 Shows how much I'm a passion for fashion.


Its been a month and there's not much post (ZERO post) for this month, October.
Why was I missing in action. ( M.I.A. )

FIRST and MAIN reason. I was busy, really I was and also I didn't have time to find something interesting to write about in my blog. But mostly I was busy, with life and being on an emotional ride. I have some problems and I was figuring things out here and there. It hasn't been a good month for me but I'm still capable with things. I'm still feeling down and maybe I should blog about something tonight.


AND then there was this Anonymous Formspring who suggested me to write about my life.


One thing about my life, I'm a very happy person, well I wish and maybe not at this time and pretty much I've been on tough and bumpy roads. I'm facing a lot of sadness that I feel unfair, I just feel like I've been trying to make people happy all my life where I just end up hurting myself and hide that away because I want to be happy too and it has always been unfair with life and all I wanted was to witness a miracle this year and so far there's no miracles in my life.

Before I move on, I just want you to know that I don't expect sympathy when you readers reading this, I just want this post to be honest, I guess I should write about my life a little a bit more in this blog since its all about my thoughts, I never wrote about my life before in here.


Firstly, yes I am a happy kid, I'd like to call myself a kid because 18 is a scary number and I hate turning 18. I turned 18 on 3.10.2011, that was by far the worst birthday ever and as much as I love this month, I hate it now. I hate how things are and I can't wait for October to end.


I have always been appreciative and thanking god for giving me another day to be happy again. Sometimes it doesn't work. I'm not being dramatic and I know that life has ups and downs but I just want to know why.


Maybe its because of the people around me, I guess I mix with the wrong people sometimes and sometimes I don't know if maybe I just want to fit in at the same time. But basically about my social life, I love my friends, I have more guy friends than girl friends but things somehow changed us and we have our own life to lead. Its no more 7a.m waking up in the morning gotta be fresh gotta go downstairs - (Okay enough with Rebecca black) I miss school. That was when life is just a beautiful playground and its alright to do a mistakes because we always agree with "LEARNING from OUR mistakes".

Well, its not too late to turn over a new leaf. 2011 hasn't end yet and I still can prove something for myself. All I want to do is chase for one thing. Which is happiness. Because that is what is important. I want to change, because I've been hurt so much this year and I want to change for the better of myself. Everybody say next year is going to be a horrible year, but I can assure that it wont be for me.


Alright. no more emo talks.


I auditioned for TWISTIES SUPERSTARZ 2011. It was a great experience though I wasn't shortlisted but that doesn't stop me from singing. The judges were, alright I guess. I didn't know they can put Jin Hitz FM a judge. Oh well, and I came across many people telling me I look like Selena Gomez. Weird but I guess I do look like her a little, but not through personality. They were a lot of talented people. Met a few people I know and their really nice and cool. Its good to see them. Most of the time I was alone. Maybe I needed to be alone today.

Till next time.

jASMIN rAYHAN

A Pair of Jeans

Teenage girls back in the 60's would save up loads of cash in their piggy banks just so to buy the perfect pair of jeans. Without hesitations, they just have to get one for themselves. It is amazing how the famous Mr Rebel, James Dean was the actor to make jeans a fashion statement and it was a must have those days, - and it still is.

Though Cowboy movies were the first to make it famous. It was rabid back then and jeans were very trendy and popular after the movies and now in the 21st century, every person would at least have one pair of jeans in their wardrobe or as I could say it is a must have in every wardrobe today in various age, size and sex.

Jeans are preferably casual yet it could be really elegant with a touch of heels and a cute strappy top. It is always fashionable with almost anything because jeans were made to be a basis on an outfit. Models around the world would say jeans should always be worn during fashion week or modelling shoots to symbolize it as the main attire and it is a good choice of a smart wear for models as it brings true attitude and strut on runaways.

As Victoria Becham would say, there's no need to dress much when you can wear your jeans along with a cute top and your ready to go just anywhere.

As a fashion addict, fashion is the class of the classes of women and we love to own the latest fashion must haves, one of them is of course, a pair of jeans and it is one of the top most desirable fashion of all time. Jeans have made a good impact for the fashion industry and how the world of fashion have improve with the various kinds of it.
We see stores like Gaps and Levis etc with the types of jeans like skinny, tapered, straight, boot cut. mommy cut, maternity and flare. All to attract more jeans lovers.

Unlike any other clothing items, believe it or not jeans were just a clothing item for men who works in heavy contracting or the men who did gold mining as their job.

They needed a material that is soft and easily stretched due to their activities at work. Because of the stretchable texture, designers decides to add pockets on jeans NOT to make it look more fashionable but to add on more help for the men back then.

Surprise? Well not so surprise yet. The word jeans first came from Europe and it is actually a material called  jean. In my knowledge, they use jean to make clothes for the sailors back then and it was name jean because of the sailors. Sailors wore them when their off duty. Jean was made from various types of mixture materials and it finally became cotton and it is suitable for the sailors.


Denim on the other hand is actually one of the first French material. It is widely use because it is a strong material and it doesn't get thorn that easily as it is mix with other mixture materials and of course, it became cotton. No jeans are below a 100% cotton. If its not a 100% then, you've been ripped off.

Back in the hippy days, jeans were finally a high fashion clothing, as it match perfectly with the hippy fashion. Jeans were turned into brightly colored sewn designs, brightly colored patterns and it made the hippies one of the first fashion gurus.

The famous designers started making their own styles of jeans and creating their own labels as well. The hipsters made designers developed even more jeans with different designs.

Jeans are blue in color because it represents the American Culture. It turned out to be blue when the jean was actually dyed with indigo ink from urban plants in India or America and adding on to more mixture of materials which forms to denim jeans.

Jeans are made to be essential and jeans would be worn for as long as it is created. Many designers are still improving for jeans as it is an attire for every basic purposes on everyone's daily life.

Jeans will always be highly fashioned.

-Jasmin Rayhan-

THE EXPECTATIONS IN LIFE

The more I watch this movie, the more I think Tom is a complete idiot.
Well it is the movies anyway,
I couldn't find any better picture for today's post but its all up in the title.


I've been a little down recently and to not think about my itty-bitty sadness,
I had noodles with my sister. (Food makes me happy)

She was asking me a lot of things about expectations. I wouldn't want to burst her bubble because she's really the joy to my heart but I'd rather burst her bubble than to let someone/thing burst her heart, and so I told her...


DON'T expect too much, Appreciate before everything is gone.

I admit, expectations are always better than reality.

Reality is a wake up call and it sucks when the things you expect in life doesn't turn out as perfect in reality.

Everyone have expections and there's no reason to blame on that.

I feel unfair to know that some people always have to live up with people's expectations.
Everybody have different standards. It will be boring if everything is the same.

Well quit doing that, because it is not your fault. They don't see how great you are inside and out. It's their lost and as for ourselves,

 sometimes we need to learn to let go of our expectations and accept what reality gives us.

EVEN if you hate it just as much or nothing seems to be working out for you.


Don't get me wrong, I would love to live IN my expectations.
But you know, I can't and I feel like a total loser and I feel selfish.
I can't keep hurting myself on why something doesn't turn out right. It sucks (how many times have I used the word "sucks" already?)


I know, but things happen for a reason. - I always believe in that and I always believe on my quote. (I finally created a quote!!)

When life doesn't turn out the way you expect it to be, then improvise - Jasmin Rayhan

Just put it this way, expectations are like levels. Frankly we all put our expectations a little too high. It's really a down hill when we don't get our expectations. I learned to control my expectations by putting it step by step or maybe baby steps.


Each step at a time and when a step doesn't turn out right, improvise. I kept doing that and it made me happy and I start looking forward to my day with no expectations at all.
If you can't remove it. CHANGE IT.


Have you ever thought of making reality better than your expectations? You should.
It's alright to complain at first, but chin up. It's not the end that you have to give up on reality (and life).

It is possible to have reality better than your expectations and if your patient enough,
 It comes when you least expect it, and it's a great feeling.


I feel that people should live life calmly and not thinking about serious things too much.
Your just at the middle of the road when you want to reach to the end but your not prepared for it.
So what's the point?

In situations with your expectations. TAKE things slow.

NO EXPECTATIONS..... NO DISAPOINTMENT.


-Jasmin Rayhan-

THE WORLD FROM MY EYES

I see the world full of ups and downs, and unbalance ecosystem with large communities. The good and the evil. The positives and the negatives. All of those pretty much sums up my judgement. It clearly showed me what the world really is and how it is bound this way. But why does it have to be this way?

It is because of us. We are responsible for our actions to the world.
Ever wonder why life was easier back then?

When I see and think about the world, I see every person I saw. Mainly because I wonder what are they thinking and just looking at their facial expression to see if they put a smile on their faces. What I know now is that some of us are not satisfied or felt good about their day. Just a day, it can affect the people to be against the world.


Sometimes when I see kids I start to wonder if what I'm doing now is what I really want to do. When we get older, we start to not have much choices. But I still wonder if I'm following what I plan to do when I was a kid. Kids are great and I feel that their the source to hope. Their the most character building people compare to us teens and adults. Nothing doubts them, they have high hopes in everything and they always dream big. They always do things their way. Why am I not like that now? I'm not a kid but doesn't it make you wonder why your not like that anymore?
Because you stop believing in yourself unlike them

I remember a kid came to me and she asked me to run on the rain with her. Well that's just crazy, but she wanted to do it and she did. She was a smart little girl and she told me

"I want to run on the rain, you should do what you want to do".


I told her to keep that attitude and thinking. You see, kids are the new generation of us. Never let anyone tell you what NOT to do. That's what I see, the world is full of doubts and I think we should stop doubting on ourselves.

I miss school. The life where you think you've had everything. A life with no big worries and complications. Everyday, we look forward to a new day. I just don't see the point to be upset in school when everything back then was just so easy. When your in school you think about nothing else but yourself. That is what you should do and think about. To be great women and men in future we must have good priorities. With good priorities you will see something good in yourself for your future. I see the world with bright futures when your on the right track and not being affected by others.

Remember the movie Robin Hood? The man who stole from the rich and gives to the poor. How do you see or react when you see beggars or the needy. The people who doesn't have a place to stay, the people who begs for money and food to eat. By giving chances even if it's a small chance, things will change. The world towards to them, I'm upset to say ignorant and not only them who were ignorant but also to the people around us. I see the world with no help and kindness anymore.


We need that back. It wont hurt to give a helping hand and the act of kindness to people.
People can be mean but behind all that are people who got themselves hurt before. It is not nice to hurt people and it doesn't change anything to be good. When people are no longer friendly, there's no more trust, and when there's no more trust, there's no more harmony. Were making the world look like a place to compete with one another.




The world still does have humanity. Sadly were putting it right at the bottom. I see the world lack of humanity. It seems that the world is a cruel and unsave place to live now. With the words from the politics and the government actions and even with what societies have to say. There wont be anymore justice when everybody wants power. Recently a few months ago we had a rally. It is shameful and it is giving everyone a bad sight. People forgot the meaning of being fair to others.

Just like John Lennon would say : Give Peace a Chance.

In the world, there is just so many people. So many different people with different features and color. Racism is part of why the world isn't a better place. There's nothing wrong with being different and we are just the same in some ways. Stop racism to make things fair and equal. Why bother declaring ONE MALAYSIA when no actions are taken by this. We are here to not fight but bringing the benefits for each other.

People can really make big changes while it is also affects the change of our nature. The world used to have the rich and goodness of what nature gives us. We should learn to appreciate the award of nature but it seems to be corrupted and more polluted as we are hungry to overuse nature's benefits. Lets not destroy nature because it is what puts the world all together at the first place.

I'm still observing and I'm still finding the right answer. I see the world through myself AND what I can do to make the world a better place. To show people that there is hope. To tell people to believe in ourselves. I see others and we do have the potential to give back something good for the world and making it a better place to live in. If we do good, we will get something good in the end and if we do bad, well god knows what.

Always preserve good intentions for one another.

-Jasmin Rayhan-

10 THINGS TO DO WHEN YOUR BORED

THIS IS A POST REQUEST.

One of the most common used word - I AM BORED.Well I can't help much about it because I am bored myself right now and this are the things that I think people should do when their bored. - OR at least some might be helpful.


1. GET A HOBBY
I know, what a common thing to say and a common suggestion plus you probably heard this a million times before but hobbies really help you to keep yourself occupied if your not willing to waste your time on anything else. I think everyone should have hobbies, GOOD and HEALTHY hobbies. 

The best part about hobbies is that we all can have more than one hobbies. Another good thing about hobbies, it helps you find what your potentionally good at too. Something that you can call it your talent and self preservere. Like, sports or music (example) :)




2. TALK ON THE PHONE

This is one of my favorite things to do and I love talking. Who doesn't? Do you know that women talk more than men? Take your phone and JUST FORGET about the bills (well, maybe not over run your bills would be good). Call someone up and talk to them about anything. TELL THEM YOUR BORED. - Its nice to be bored with someone than being bored alone don't you think?

TELL someone you miss them and you wish them a great day. It really works, just CALL anyone you would like to talk to. Your mom and dad, bro and sis, friends, boyfriends/girlfriends etc whoever.

3. SURFING THE WEB/PLAY COMPUTER GAMES

HAR HAR HAR. AND if that is also boring then I'm sorry. But there's a lot of things you can find on the web. A LOT. LIKE blog walking! Your reading my blog now and I'm happy to know that your reading my blog. (thank you!)

I'm sure there's a lot of websites. (I don't need to list them I'm sure that you know what I'm talking about) and how can anyone not love computer games?! I love COD. Anyone wanna invite me to play COD with them?

4. PORN

THIS goes mainly to the guys. MAJORITY does say men watches porn more than women. Its nothing wrong at first either. Remember my previous post about porn? CLICK HERE.

According to psychology, When the male is bored, they tend to fantasize more. I read an article about it at in reader's digest before (I THINK IT'S READERS DIGEST)
It's alright to be horny. Your horny mode doesn't last long anyways.


5. WATCH A MOVIE

I dunno, it kills time I guess. MOVIES are amazing and it is way better than reality. Try watching a movie with full focus and maybe make a review about it yourself LIKE maybe you could rate the storyline, how are the actors and actresses in the movie and if you really love movies you would love to know everything about how the movie was made. I used to love film making but now I see it as entertainment.

If your into film. This maybe a good hobby for you. BEING OBSERVANT is what the film makers always want. Don't forget to imagine.

6. COOK AND EAT

I think FOOD makes people happy. Nuff said and also I think cooking is something that everyone should fall in love doing it no matter what gender you are. I don't see a problem if a man loves to cook. It's really a bonus if men do know how to cook!

Oooh eating is just the best part. There's just no worries (unless you care about your weight).


7. WRITE A LIST OF 100 THINGS YOU WANT TO DO BEFORE YOU DIE

Because when your bored, it is always a good time for you to use your mind and think OR maybe dream. I'm sure you have a lot of things that you want to do and achieve in life. MAKE A LIST ABOUT IT. Set your goals and makesure you finish that list of yours.

Other than making a list of 100 things you want to do, maybe you can write something else. WRITING IS FUN! (might as well start blogging - create a blog.. Teeehee)


8. LISTEN TO SONGS
It works for me because I love singing and dancing to it. Songs are great and it helps you relax. Need I say more about it?


9. DO FACIAL

MAINLY for the girls now since I wrote about porn for the guys. Girls, we should really love grooming ourselves. Other than facial, there's lots of other things we could do too. Like manicure. Having beautiful colored nails or doing your hair. ETC ETC.

I've seen a lot of pictures in tumblrs where girls do fishtail braids, water fall braids on their hair and it looks really good! I don't have a tumblr but I like looking through tumblr pics. So girls, start grooming or do a makeover :)

10. SLEEP

NO I did not run out of ideas (well okay I run out alright?!) but sleep is good. Really good. We need at least 7-8 hours of sleep. Sleeping is healthy and if your bored just close your eyes, hug your pillow and sleep!


I hope AT LEAST some of the things I listed here are helpful. EL-OH-EL.

Jasmin Rayhan

DEATH BED

I've been thinking about death lately.
I'm not being dark and NOT that I have suicidal thoughts or anything.
It just made me very terrified and cautious even more especially when there's so many accidental death this days. Death that unexpectedly happen.

Thinking of it, well I'm afraid to ever think about it and I wonder to myself what would ever happen if my life was taken away fast and what would happen to my love ones when I'm no longer living in this world.

There's been a couple of stories I've heard/read this week about death.
That made me think about it,

One was from a newspaper. Newspaper Title: He Did It His Way.

Such an inspiring person who just wanted to achieve in his dreams and putting his family as his main priority  but it just happened so soon that his gone.

The fact that he did so much and being blessed by the things he deserved.

Things just twist around 360 for him and his loved ones.

Another one which I've heard from my best friend who his friend, who has this best friend past away. (I heard it from Friend A and Friend A's friend who is Friend B who had his best friend who is Friend C past away a few days ago - I hope you get what I'm saying).


His best friend died the day after he proposed to his girlfriend.


THIS IS A TRUE STORY.

It happened just like that. Just a few days ago.
I couldn't believed it myself.

Its heartbreaking and it hit me hard to even heard it from my best friend n how he died.
I thought incidents like this would only happened in the movies. I guess not.

This is really a reality incident and I am sorry and upset to know about it

It made me realize that were not that young for death.


Do the people who lost their lives died peacefully or do they manage to accomplished and complete their goals that they wanna reach and complete?

Were they happy with their life before and were they ready to die?

Its such a twist of fate to some tragic death and you just don't know what life gives you along the way. Health or accidents. ANYTHING.


I asked myself, would I ever make it to die peacefully.

I just don't know, but I should do what I can because fact that we should remember,
when it happens, we have no choice but to let it happen.

Death is not a choice. We all have to face it someday.

I remember losing someone so dearly to my family.

On the 18th December 2008, I lost a best friend.
The person who I never thought would make a big impact in my life.
She's like a mother to me. I loved her. Nobody thought it would be serious but it was.
I could not accept the fact that I have to see her being buried.
The tears could not stop coming.

She's gone for 3 years now. I miss her a lot.
I visited her grave on raya this year. I still couldn't kept my tears away.
But some part of me told me to smile and wipe away my tears.


Because one thing I know, she had a great life. She was loved and remembered always.
I'm sure the people who left us wouldn't want us to be upset because of them.
Take it as a sign that it is your turn to live life the fullest.


It may hurt as much as you could not eat or sleep for days but remember the saying
"Time heals everything" and time does heal everything even when we take it slow or fast.


They don't want you to be sad and of course they didn't ask for this.
The good times with them are now turned to memories.

They did what they could and it is our turn now to live the life that they could not live.

Because they want YOU to be happy no matter what.
Lets all say our prayers to the ones we loved who lost their lives.


-Jasmin Rayhan-

Little Note : WHY ME?

A blog post for now as I'm still writing for my next one.

WHY ME. I'm sure you asked this question before and it is pretty much a common use question. You ask yourself this when your teacher ask you to answer a question and you just don't want to answer it. - That's a way of putting it as an example.

I asked a few boys and girls, men and women on when exactly do they ask this question to themselves. Some of them gave me a reply by saying it is because their not up for a certain task or they don't have the guts to do what it takes.

To add on a bit more, what they told me is that it is all about the confidence or accepting what you must take. You don't like it because you think you can't do it.


Maybe, we should change our thinking about this just a lil, instead of Why Me, ask yourself...
WHY NOT ME? Why wont you ask yourself that instead?

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. DO NOT DOUBT. JUST DO IT
Because at least you try, instead of doing nothing about it. :)

- Jasmin Rayhan-

LOVE IS LOUDER THAN THE PRESSURE TO BE PERFECT

My blog, Perfection is Passion is a blog where I could write about anything I can to inspire people.That was my vision when I first decided to blog and it still is my vision and to that I pursuit it through writing.

Writing changes someone's character because writing makes us express ourselves.

I like expressing myself. I like to understand humanity more and to find my purpose in life as well.

I'm still confuse at some point and I do feel a little out of place sometimes - Just another way of saying I still don't know, but I'm searching. It's one of my goals.

We all have different goals, goals that are high to reach when we put it high to get and we work hard for it and we do whatever it takes to get it. Like getting good grades, winning a goal medal or even get married. - That is a goal too. These are the things that makes life interesting. Life should be amazing no matter how tough it is.

I decided to write PRESSURE TO BE PERFECT because I read a beautiful inspiring story about Demi Lovato and I admired how she could handle her pressure to being perfect. (I will always admire her so much) At the same time, I'm seeing everyone that I know are stopping themselves to being perfect just because they have something that they don't like and its pressuring them. We all have problems and there's always a solution to it no matter what. First off, Nobody is PERFECT and life CANNOT be perfect but we just have this feeling that we want to be perfect.

Being Perfect is just a way to be accepted by everyone. - Anonymous.

We always want the best for ourselves and that we always try and try and sometimes too much pressure could make us lose control and having a mental breakdown. Because we want to be accepted. We all want to feel good about ourselves but insecurity hits us back every time.

 I have insecurities too and I'm insecure about my skin. I have eczema and I hate how dry and scaly my skin can be. It broke me down and wishing that I never had eczema.

 I'm afraid I wont be accepted and I'm afraid I wont be beautiful.

Every girl in this world wants to be beautiful. I'm upset to know that some girls would starve themselves just because they can't accept their weight and appearance. They can't handle those mean words from other people. They have eating disorders because of that and its blocking them to feel perfect by being normal.

Your not perfect because your not that model in the magazine, your not perfect because your not the girl with the perfect everything. Your not perfect because you don't get what you want and mostly your not perfect because you can't accept yourself. All this are bad thoughts and negatives statement to make us stop believing in ourselves and it brings us down. Always remember to never compare ourselves with someone else.

N whats worst is that it makes us depress. Some people can't handle the pressure around them till they decide to end the pressure in the easy yet a bad way, suicide. People who are depress often feels lonely and they just wish someone else is there to understand them. Their not attention seekers. They just needed someone to listen.

I've known some people who are under depression and its not very nice to know that they would cut both their wrists just to release their pain. I use to have suicidal thoughts myself before. I've gone through a lot of bad things in the past and I even cry myself to sleep.

Crying is not always a sign that your weak, sometimes its just that you've been strong for holding your pain for too long and there's a time where you have to let it go. Well I rather cry than to have suicidal thoughts again. I was stupid enough to Google "HOW TO DIE"

- If your a close friend to me, I'm sure you know that I'm a psycho friend.

Whenever I feel insecure now, I just take it as a challenge and that I would learn to overcome it.

I know I can't be perfect but I try to be and its nothing wrong with trying. I believe that I'm different and special the way I am. For start, always be yourself,

You be the judge to yourself and take every hardships a lesson to learn.  

LOVE YOURSELF NO MATTER WHAT.

If your born with color blindness, born with freckles, born with an un-perfect feature, born with a bad vision that you need to wear glasses etc .

Still do not stop loving yourself. Don't make the small things put you to waste.

Make life the fullest and be happy no matter what.

Do something you love doing, maybe paint your room or play music, sing and dance and anything that makes you happy. If you want to be pretty you need a pretty heart.

Start forgiving your enemies, its alright as long as you move on. Ask that guy you like to go out with you or tell the girl that you have a crush on that you love her.

It doesn't matter what you do, just make life a joyful thing and always look at the brighter side of things. 

Believe that there's always a bright side in every darkness.

LOVE is LOUDER than The Pressure to be PERFECT - DEMI LOVATO.

-Jasmin Rayhan-

THE ART OF LOVE

LOVE, is a special day,

WE should celebrate, and appreciate.

A nice song from Kina Grannis though many of us still haven't found the exact right meaning of LOVE.
Actually there is but LOVE has a lot of meaning from many people. 

Different people with different experience of love have different meanings of Love. 

 Love can be anything and its always best to feel in with the heart.


I've always admire love like the movies. 

How simple yet elegant the story line goes especially when it is about Unexpected Love stories and everything looks so easy and simple to get. 

Could you believe it?? Its almost like a fairy tale but in reality, 

Love can be really complicated and nothing like the movies. 

That's why we have love songs to cheer us up!

Songs makes us feel better, that feeling when you sing a long with the lyrics and how sometimes it relates to your life.

Its beautiful, because song writing comes from the heart and sometimes a song can be for that special someone that their inspired to write for. 

Love songs are as beautiful as break up songs. 

The more you feel it the more calm you are and makes us feel easier when were having a hard time.

Its really good to know that were love by someone special and how it motivates us for moving forward. 

Love also helps to motivated us. It keeps us going by being happy. 

So the love quotes are really good, well all quotes are great. 

Their like food our souls. - N it never fails to bright someone up!

The thing about love is that sometimes it might end us up with a broken heart. 

Some love life are great but rare. 

Its nice to know that some people have been loving the same person since the day they first met and their marriage life is great. 

I admire this people, and the fact that it makes the relationship stronger and more admirable and just having one sex partner for the rest of your life. 

Its like the old days, where love seems to be very simple.

Everybody deserves love :)


Jasmin Rayhan.

MY CRAZY MOTHER WHO DRIVES ME CRAZY

You know that movie called Freaky Friday starring Jamie Lee Curtis and Lindsay Lohan?
A story about a mom and a daughter that doesn't seem to have a good mother daughter relationship and both of them don't seem to understand one another and then they switched bodies because of that Chinese Lady that gave them the fortune cookie.
The good old days when Lindsay Lohan was just as innocent as ever. Sad to see her now.


Movies like this have moral values and I think what the movie is trying to tell us is that to settle a difference we have to communicate and understand each other first. The switching bodies just makes the movie look more interesting, instead of imagining yourself in someone else's shoe.


So my mom told me, well she actually dared me to write a blog post about her (she just got herself a new blog) and putting the blog title as MY CRAZY MOTHER WHO DRIVES ME CRAZY.  Firstly, we all have different types of mothers, I just happen to have a crazy one. - QUOTED BY HER.


Everybody have different types of mothers, you just happen to have a crazy one - Mom.


I gotta admit that what my mom said is true. Well I'm on the Edge of 17 and I really just can't seem to understand what my mom wants from me sometimes. N whats worst is that whenever there's a huge situation,  it always starts with an argument and ends with "You don't understand me at all".

Leaves my mom and I annoyed with each other.


Lets go back to communication, its the key to understand one another right? Well yea that's what I'm lack of sometimes. Bonding doesn't help much when there's no communication and to tell you the truth I'm NOT a rebel kid but I can be really rude at times. Its the limits people, which leads me complaining like any other ordinary girl would do. N its the only way for them to listen (if your lucky that is)
plus girls tend to talk more than guys. So let us talk! *sniff*.

My mom is not an ordinary mom, she's not a housewife either but I use to know her as my hero, someone who is headstrong and bold for herself and was never afraid of the future - Or so I thought. Things change and I understand what my mom went through and whats she's going through now. She got a lot of ups and downs. Times are tough for her and I'm always there to catch her when she falls but sometimes the things I do just seems never enough or satisfying for her.


Typical isn't it? How many of you are going through the same thing as I do now? I let myself clueless and all I can do is just sit and be patient. 

I'm not sure if I have readers who are mothers in my blog but that would be cool to know. I just feel like asking each and everyone of the mothers why is it that all of you have to use "You don't understand me" in every single conversation.
Okay we use that in relationships too and living our boyfriends clueless but that's a whole different thing cuz there's always a kiss and make up when it comes to the boy-girl relationship.


Well as some of us would say, its not really nice to know that mothers think that were not trying. In my part, I tried and I give up and whats worst is that there's no trust. Which brings us the TRUST section and believe me, my parents are strict but sometimes I think they don't know what their doing. - I have weird parents. There are some parts where their wrong but you know, they wouldn't want to admit it - Its cuz their "older". See it all ends with age. RESPECT the ELDERLY. What an advantage, imagine life without age, everybody would want to be the boss.


If I ever have a kid of my own, well I can't tell the future and I think its weird to think about marriage and kids now but just as an example, I would rather just talk things out. Well its easy to say it now to some of you elderly parents would think but I've seen other parents and their kids and they seem alright together. I use to have that but I don't have it anymore. Its personal but I got to put my head up high for it.


KIDS. They wont learn till their TEENAGERS. They are ignorant till they decide to change.


I'm just saying, wouldn't it be better? My mom doesn't  trust me and at the rate I'm going through, its getting tough and pretty annoying. Mom was a girl before isn't it? I'm sure she gives trouble to my grandma (yes, my mom was a rebel kid according to my grandma).


Well I know what she's trying to do, I know. She doesn't want me to end up like her and make the same mistakes. Same goes to all the other mothers in the world. They love their kids and they want the best for them and sometimes they get too obsessed until they start to crack and BOOM!


But face it, its our turn now, to make mistakes (well not the same mistakes as them) that's what teenagers should do, make mistakes (not on purpose) and when were wrong just talk to us. We need you in the end of the day. Like a baby bird that wants to fly so much and when it tries to fly alone the baby bird fell and that's when the mommy bird comes.


I've seen books, articles and talk shows about a woman talking about how kids/teens never understand what a mother has to go through. But hey, it might be our fault at times but its your fault too - at times as well.


I love my mom, I do. Just that sometimes I don't get her and I don't see me doing anything wrong anymore what what I've been through for the past 4 years. It was a tough road for my mom and my siblings and I. But everyday is a new a day and I can always put on my ear plugs when she goes grenade bomb all over me -HAHA I'm kidding. :)


How is your mom like?

-Jasmin Rayhan-